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Do Parents Influence a Child’s Personality?

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    Each individual has a distinct set of characteristics that make them who they are. Similar to how fingerprints are unique to each individual, so too are personalities. There are never going to be any duplicates. A person's character develops as a result of their exposure to a wide range of situations. It's a product of our upbringing as well. Any child's personality will be heavily shaped by their parents. It determines the kinds of adults we'll become. It is essential to adopt a parenting approach that encourages a child's healthy growth and development.

    No human is born with a complete set of characteristics determined by their DNA. Instead, infants are born with a temperament, which can be thought of as the raw material from which an individual's personality is shaped through interaction with others, including peers, family members, and teachers. An intriguing and rapidly expanding area of developmental psychology, however, is discovering that not all children respond in the same manner to good or bad parenting. Differential susceptibility refers to the fact that some people are less affected by their parents' actions while others will benefit from or suffer because of their caregiver's behaviour. New research reveals that children with the most turbulent internal lives have the most to lose in the family dynamic.

    There is a lot of proof that parents have an effect on their kids. Just as convincing is the data suggesting that a child's genetic makeup not only affects the traits they exhibit but also the way their parents treat them. Twin and adoption studies give a strong basis for assessing the degree of genetic impacts. However, estimates of heritability for a certain trait might vary greatly depending on the sample used, thus no one estimate should be taken at face value. However, this chapter shows that understanding the strength of hereditary influences is not an adequate basis for estimating environmental ones, and that attempts to do so can routinely underestimate parenting impacts. Children's genetic predispositions and their parents' child-rearing regimes are recognised to be intricately linked, and the manner in which they act together to affect children's development are investigated.

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    Types of Parental Impact on Children's Characteristics:

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    Authoritarian 

    The rules-based approach is central to this style of parenting. It is a dominant style and incorporates a lot of control. These parents think that spanking and other forms of physical discipline are necessary. It is assumed that children of such parents will grow up to exhibit similar authoritarian tendencies in their personal and professional lives.

    Authoritative 

    Parenting like this fosters self-reliance in children. Similarly, they establish confines and restrictions. In this setting, discipline is administered in a positive and ultimately beneficial manner. Such parenting fosters a sense of self-reliance in the youngster. As a result, these individuals develop into stronger leaders. These kids are well-rounded individuals, with excellent interpersonal and self-management skills.

    Permissive 

    Parents who are more permissive tend to be more laid back. They make the rules yet aren't strict about following through with consequences. These parents understand that children will act like children. A lot more like pals than parents, really. Their offspring are more prone to have behavioural problems and to lack respect for authority. Their parents have given them free reign to eat all the junk food they want, regardless of its potential effects on their health.

    Un-involved 

    In such cases, parents are either completely unaware or complicit in their children's activities. They don't pay much attention to their kids and are often unaware of their whereabouts. Such parents have a high bar set for their children's upbringing. Parents who struggle with addiction or mental illness are disproportionately likely to be absent from their children's lives. They can't meet their child's physiological or psychological requirements. Furthermore, such children are more likely to develop into adults with very low self-esteem and possibly poor social and behavioural abilities.

    The most important thing is to strike a balance between the roles of friend and parent. The key is to find a balance between spoiling them and showing them the real world.

    Personality and Social Development in Early Childhood

    Interactions between social influences, biological maturation, and the child's representations of the social world and the self give rise to the child's emerging social and personality traits during childhood. Significant relationships, learning about others, shaping one's identity, and acquiring social and emotional skills all interact, and this article shows how.

    Relationships

    During the first year of a child's life, this interaction is evident in the formation of the first bonds with his or her parents. Infants in typical environments have deep relationships with their primary carers. Attachment development, according to psychologists, is as fundamental to human biology as earning to walk and has nothing to do with whether or not a child receives food or shelter from his or her parents. Instead, attachments have developed in humans because they encourage youngsters to stick close to their carers so that they can reap the educational, guiding, nurturing, and affirming benefits of these connections.

    Parent-child interactions evolve naturally as children grow up. Children in elementary school and preschool have developed enough to have their own opinions, preferences, and even to resist or seek compromise with their parents' demands. The way in which parents handle arguments with their children can have a significant impact on the quality of their relationships with their children. When parents set high (but realistic) standards for their children's behaviour, engage in open dialogue with them, show them affection and responsiveness when they misbehave, and rely on reason rather than force to correct their children, their children flourish. The term "authoritative parenting" has been used to characterise this approach. Authoritative parents encourage their children, take an active interest in their lives, and provide a safe environment in which they can learn from their mistakes without being overbearing. In contrast, authoritarian, disengaged, or indulgent parenting can lead to less fruitful interactions between parents and their children.

    There are various ways in which parental roles shift in regard to their offspring. These days, parents often function as go-betweens (or gatekeepers) between their kids and their friends and extracurricular activities. Young people benefit from their parents' values because they are taught and modelled by them. Adolescents and their parents enter into a new phase of their relationship known as "coregulation," in which they rebalance authority and acknowledge one another's developing competence and autonomy. In many families, this is reflected in the gradual release of restrictions placed on teenagers in order to foster their blossoming feeling of autonomy.

    The state of the world has a major impact on family interactions. For instance, the Family Stress Model explains how stressors like money troubles can cause depression in parents, which in turn can cause marital strife and subpar parenting, both of which have negative effects on children's well-being and adjustment. More than half of today's American youth are impacted by marital strife or divorce at home. Many important changes occur for children after divorce, including financial strains on both parents and children, a reorganisation of parental responsibilities (with one parent taking main custody and the other accepting a visiting relationship), and a shift in the child's principal residence. Children's perspectives on divorce tend to be negative, despite the fact that most don't have lasting adjustment issues when their parents split up.

    Peer Relationships

    Relationships with one's parents are important, but they are not the only ones that matter to a child. Relationships with one's peers are also crucial. The development of many lifelong social abilities is prompted by social engagement with another youngster of a similar age, skill level, and knowledge. Children learn the skills of making friends and keeping them through their peer relationships. Learning how to take turns, compromise, and negotiate are some of the conflict resolution skills they acquire. Coordination of intentions, movements, and comprehension is essential to the play's success and can be rather intricate. For instance, infants experience their first form of sharing (of each other's toys), preschoolers work together to come up with stories, assign roles, and act out those stories through pretend play, and elementary school students may choose to join a sports team, where they learn to provide emotional and strategic support to one another while working towards a common goal. Children gain a sense of belonging and community outside of their immediate family through the friendships they form at these events.

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    Social Understanding

    As we have seen, children's exposure to both family and peer connections helps them develop their emotional intelligence and their capacity to empathise with others. Children learn to connect with others, form attachments (secure or insecure, for example, to parents), and form a sense of who they are by observing the reactions of others around them. These connections also provide important contexts for maturing as a person emotionally.

    Remarkably, social cognition emerges in infants and toddlers. By the end of their first year, most children have figured out that other individuals have minds of their own, complete with their own set of perceptions, emotions, and other mental states that influence their behaviour. This is evident in the common phenomenon of social reference, in which a baby turns to their mother's face for guidance when meeting a new person or experiencing a new scenario. If mum maintains a relaxed and confident demeanour, the baby interprets this as a sign that they are in a secure environment. A baby's natural reaction to a mother's expression of fear or distress is to become wary or distressed themselves. Thus, infants demonstrate a remarkable level of insight by realising that while they may be unsure of what to do in a new scenario, their mother is not, and that by "reading" the emotion in her face, they may learn whether the situation is safe or dangerous, and how to react accordingly.

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    Personality

    When looking at their newborns, parents often wonder, "What kind of person will this child become?" They look for hints of their child's developing personality in the baby's likes, dislikes, and reactions. The development of one's character depends on one's temperament, so they have every right to focus on it. Nonetheless, temperament (here understood as differences in reactivity and self-regulation that emerge at a young age) is not the complete story. Even though temperament has its roots in biology, it also interacts with the impact of experience from the time of birth (and even before) to develop an individual's personality. The level of parental care, for instance, can have an effect on a child's temperamental disposition. Overall, a child's personality develops based on how well the child's temperamental traits and environmental factors mesh. A good "fit" between a child's lifestyle and the environment in which she is raised can encourage healthy development. Therefore, personality is the consequence of a dynamic interaction between genetic predisposition and environmental influences, just as many other facets of social and individual growth are similarly shaped.

    Other aspects of a person's personality emerge as a result of their temperament. Children's temperaments develop and shift in tandem with their physical maturation. The lack of self-control in a newborn is reflected in their temperament, but as their brain develops the ability to regulate their emotions, their demeanour shifts accordingly. A baby who cries a lot at first may not have a negative disposition; rather, it may learn to regulate his or her crying with the help of loving parents and a growing sense of safety.

    Also, temperament is just one component of an individual's personality. Personality encompasses a wide range of characteristics, including a child's evolving sense of self, their motivations to achieve or socialise, their values and goals, their coping strategies, their feeling of duty and conscientiousness, and much more. These traits are shaped not only by the child's genetic makeup but also by the interactions they have with others, especially in intimate connections.

    Indeed, temperamental underpinnings are the starting point for personality formation, which then expands and deepens over time. As a result, the infant upon whose parents had gazed grows up to have a complex and nuanced character.

    Social and Emotional Competence

    The aforementioned social, biological, and representational elements serve as the foundation upon which one's social and personality development is created. The capacity of adolescents and young adults to engage in socially constructive behaviours (such as caring, sharing, and helping others), to control hostile or aggressive impulses, to adhere to significant moral values, to form a positive sense of self, to mature into a successful member of society, and to develop talents and skills is an important developmental outcome that is influenced by these factors.These are examples of indicators of social and emotional maturity that can be seen in a child's growth.

    These successes in social and personality growth are the result of a complex interplay of social, biological, and symbolic factors. Take, for instance, the formation of a conscience, which serves as a stepping stone to later moral growth. Young children develop a sense of conscience as a result of cognitive, emotional, and social forces that motivate them to develop and act in accordance with their own personal standards of right and wrong. Young children acquire conscience as a result of their interactions with their parents, especially when they learn to build a connection based on mutual responsiveness that encourages them to provide positive responses to their parents' requests and expectations. Some children's temperaments make them better equipped than others to motivate themselves to engage in self-regulation (a trait known as "effortful control"). However, there are some kids who just naturally have a harder time dealing with the worry and fear that comes with having their parents disapprove of them. For a child to acquire a strong sense of morality, parents need to strike a balance between letting him or her express their individuality and setting clear, consistent boundaries. Furthermore, one research group showed that young children with a particular gene allele (the 5-HTTLPR) had low scores on tests of consciousness development when they had received unresponsive maternal care in the past. Nonetheless, identical-alleles children who received responsive care as infants performed well on later measures of conscience.

    Expanding our understanding of how children grow and develop requires a deeper dive into the minds of their carers. Parents' attitudes and behaviours towards their children can be affected by their beliefs about child rearing. Because they reveal the emotional atmosphere in which children and parents function and the state of the relationship, these beliefs have been regarded as good predictors of parenting behaviour. In sum, parents' perceptions of their children's behaviour are shaped by their own preexisting set of beliefs, both conscious and unconscious. When the mind is at peace, it prompts constructive behaviour. When one's mind is clear, one is more likely to act in a constructive manner. However, when they are skewed and upsetting, they divert parents' attention from the task at hand and cause them to make negative emotional and attributive judgements, which in turn hinders their ability to parent effectively.

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    FAQS About Parenting

    Common knowledge, parents influence their children's development and personality. Whether we want to admit it or not, parents are a child's most influential role model. As parents, we spend more time with our children than any other adult. We model to our children our values, as well as our likes/dislikes.

    When a parent's behavior does not create a loving, supportive environment, a child's brain develops in altered form. Dysfunctional, irrational and destructive behavior patterns are literally programmed into the child's brain, setting the stage for recurring issues throughout that child's life.

    Both genetics and environment influence personality. Twin studies have found that genetics play a larger role than parental influences when it comes to behavioral outcomes, but non-shared environmental factors play an even bigger role.

     

    Attitudes are shaped in part by parenting self-efficacy—a parent's perceived ability to influence the development of his or her child.

    Harsh parenting, which includes verbal or physical threats, frequent yelling, and hitting, along with immediate negative consequences for a specific behavior, can lead to children having emotional and behavioral issues, such as aggressiveness and following directions at school, according to a 2014 study.

    Policy and Service Implications

    The majority of parent intervention programmes focus on helping parents learn new methods for dealing with challenging behaviours in their children. However, issues may also develop if parents exhibit maladaptive thought patterns. For instance, mothers who are more prone to mistreat their children are more likely to label their children with negative characteristics when they exhibit ambiguous behaviour and interpret it as deliberate. To combat these prejudices, Bugental and her team have devised a cognitive retraining intervention programme for parents. Mothers who took part in the programme were shown to have more positive attitudes towards parenting, less negative parenting styles, and greater emotional availability. Two years later, the children of the mums who had participated in the programme showed decreased levels of violent behaviour and improved cognitive skills compared to the children of the mothers who had not. As a result, these results highlight the significance of parental ideas in the process of raising children.

    Adolescence and adulthood are not "resting years" for social and personality development, as the preceding line implies. It's affected by the same complex interplay of cultural, biological, and figurative factors that were analysed in the context of early development. Development is a lifelong process based on a variety of factors, including shifting social roles and connections, biological maturation and (much later) decline, and the ways in which an individual makes sense of and makes sense of themselves via their experiences. When an adult asks, "what kind of person am I becoming?" Rather than reflecting on their past selves, they are looking forwards to an equally exciting, complicated, and multifaceted interaction of developmental processes.

    Conclusion

    Psychologists are discovering that not all children respond in the same way to good or bad parenting. Differential susceptibility refers to the fact that some people are less affected by their parents' actions while others will benefit from or suffer because of their caregiver's behaviour. Children with the most turbulent internal lives have the most to lose in the family dynamic. Parents who are more permissive tend to be more laid back. They make the rules yet aren't strict about following through with consequences.

    Such parents have a high bar set for their children's upbringing. The key is to find a balance between spoiling them and showing them the real world. Parent-child interactions evolve naturally as children grow up. The way in which parents handle arguments can have a significant impact on the quality of their relationships with their children. Authoritative parents encourage their children, take an active interest in their lives, and provide a safe environment in which they can learn from their mistakes.

    Children's perspectives on divorce tend to be negative, despite the fact that most don't have lasting adjustment issues when their parents split up. Relationships with one's parents are important, but they are also crucial for children's development. Children's exposure to both family and peer connections helps them develop their emotional intelligence and capacity to empathise with others. A baby's natural reaction to a mother's expression of fear or distress is to become wary or distressed themselves. If mum maintains a relaxed demeanour, the baby interprets this as a sign that they are in a secure environment.

    Overall, a child's personality develops based on how well the child's temperamental traits and environmental factors mesh. A child's temperamental underpinnings are the starting point for personality formation, which expands and deepens over time. Some children's temperaments make them better equipped than others to motivate themselves to engage in self-regulation (effortful control). Some kids have a harder time dealing with worry and fear that comes with having their parents disapprove of them. Parents' perceptions of their children's behaviour are shaped by their own preexisting set of beliefs, both conscious and unconscious.

    When the mind is at peace, it prompts constructive behaviour; when it is skewed and upsetting, it diverts attention from the task at hand and makes parents make negative emotional and attributive judgements, which in turn hinders their ability to parent effectively. Adolescence and adulthood are not "resting years" for social and personality development. Development is a lifelong process based on a variety of factors, including shifting social roles and connections. For instance, mothers who are more prone to mistreating their children are more likely to label their children with negative characteristics.

    Content Summary

    • Any child's personality will be heavily shaped by their parents.
    • It is essential to adopt a parenting approach that encourages a child's healthy growth and development.
    • No human is born with a complete set of characteristics determined by their DNA.
    • Instead, infants are born with a temperament, which can be thought of as the raw material from which an individual's personality is shaped through interaction with others, including peers, family members, and teachers.
    • An intriguing and rapidly expanding area of developmental psychology, however, is discovering that not all children respond in the same manner to good or bad parenting.
    • Differential susceptibility refers to the fact that some people are less affected by their parents' actions while others will benefit from or suffer because of their caregiver's behaviour.
    • New research reveals that children with the most turbulent internal lives have the most to lose in the family dynamic.
    • There is a lot of proof that parents have an effect on their kids.
    • Just as convincing is the data suggesting that a child's genetic makeup not only affects the traits they exhibit but also the way their parents treat them.
    • Twin and adoption studies give a strong basis for assessing the degree of genetic impacts.
    • However, this chapter shows that understanding the strength of hereditary influences is not an adequate basis for estimating environmental ones, and that attempts to do so can routinely underestimate parenting impacts.
    • Children's genetic predispositions and their parents' child-rearing regimes are recognised to be intricately linked, and the manner in which they act together to affect children's development are investigated.
    • These parents think that spanking and other forms of physical discipline are necessary.
    • It is assumed that children of such parents will grow up to exhibit similar authoritarian tendencies in their personal and professional lives.
    • Parenting like this fosters self-reliance in children.
    • Such parenting fosters a sense of self-reliance in the youngster.
    • Parents who are more permissive tend to be more laid back.
    • Their offspring are more prone to have behavioural problems and to lack respect for authority.
    • In such cases, parents are either completely unaware or complicit in their children's activities.
    • Such parents have a high bar set for their children's upbringing.
    • Parents who struggle with addiction or mental illness are disproportionately likely to be absent from their children's lives.
    • Furthermore, such children are more likely to develop into adults with very low self-esteem and possibly poor social and behavioural abilities.
    • The most important thing is to strike a balance between the roles of friend and parent.
    • The key is to find a balance between spoiling them and showing them the real world.
    • Interactions between social influences, biological maturation, and the child's representations of the social world and the self give rise to the child's emerging social and personality traits during childhood.
    • Instead, attachments have developed in humans because they encourage youngsters to stick close to their carers so that they can reap the educational, guiding, nurturing, and affirming benefits of these connections.
    • Parent-child interactions evolve naturally as children grow up.
    • The way in which parents handle arguments with their children can have a significant impact on the quality of their relationships with their children.
    • The term "authoritative parenting" has been used to characterise this approach.
    • In contrast, authoritarian, disengaged, or indulgent parenting can lead to less fruitful interactions between parents and their children.
    • There are various ways in which parental roles shift in regard to their offspring.
    • Young people benefit from their parents' values because they are taught and modelled by them.
    • The state of the world has a major impact on family interactions.
    • Many important changes occur for children after divorce, including financial strains on both parents and children, a reorganisation of parental responsibilities (with one parent taking main custody and the other accepting a visiting relationship), and a shift in the child's principal residence.
    • Children's perspectives on divorce tend to be negative, despite the fact that most don't have lasting adjustment issues when their parents split up.
    • Relationships with one's parents are important, but they are not the only ones that matter to a child.
    • Relationships with one's peers are also crucial.
    • The development of many lifelong social abilities is prompted by social engagement with another youngster of a similar age, skill level, and knowledge.
    • Children learn the skills of making friends and keeping them through their peer relationships.
    • As we have seen, children's exposure to both family and peer connections helps them develop their emotional intelligence and their capacity to empathise with others.
    • Remarkably, social cognition emerges in infants and toddlers.
    • If mum maintains a relaxed and confident demeanour, the baby interprets this as a sign that they are in a secure environment.
    • A baby's natural reaction to a mother's expression of fear or distress is to become wary or distressed themselves.
    • Thus, infants demonstrate a remarkable level of insight by realising that while they may be unsure of what to do in a new scenario, their mother is not, and that by "reading" the emotion in her face, they may learn whether the situation is safe or dangerous, and how to react accordingly.
    • They look for hints of their child's developing personality in the baby's likes, dislikes, and reactions.
    • The development of one's character depends on one's temperament, so they have every right to focus on it.
    • Nonetheless, temperament (here understood as differences in reactivity and self-regulation that emerge at a young age) is not the complete story.
    • Even though temperament has its roots in biology, it also interacts with the impact of experience from the time of birth (and even before) to develop an individual's personality.
    • Overall, a child's personality develops based on how well the child's temperamental traits and environmental factors mesh.
    • Other aspects of a person's personality emerge as a result of their temperament.
    • The lack of self-control in a newborn is reflected in their temperament, but as their brain develops the ability to regulate their emotions, their demeanour shifts accordingly.
    • The aforementioned social, biological, and representational elements serve as the foundation upon which one's social and personality development is created.
    • The capacity of adolescents and young adults to engage in socially constructive behaviours (such as caring, sharing, and helping others), to control hostile or aggressive impulses, to adhere to significant moral values, to form a positive sense of self, to mature into a successful member of society, and to develop talents and skills is an important developmental outcome that is influenced by these factors.
    • These are examples of indicators of social and emotional maturity that can be seen in a child's growth.
    • These successes in social and personality growth are the result of a complex interplay of social, biological, and symbolic factors.
    • Young children develop a sense of conscience as a result of cognitive, emotional, and social forces that motivate them to develop and act in accordance with their own personal standards of right and wrong.
    • Furthermore, one research group showed that young children with a particular gene allele (the 5-HTTLPR) had low scores on tests of consciousness development when they had received unresponsive maternal care in the past.
    • Nonetheless, identical-alleles children who received responsive care as infants performed well on later measures of conscience.
    • Expanding our understanding of how children grow and develop requires a deeper dive into the minds of their carers.
    • Parents' attitudes and behaviours towards their children can be affected by their beliefs about child rearing.
    • Because they reveal the emotional atmosphere in which children and parents function and the state of the relationship, these beliefs have been regarded as good predictors of parenting behaviour.
    • In sum, parents' perceptions of their children's behaviour are shaped by their own preexisting set of beliefs, both conscious and unconscious.
    • When the mind is at peace, it prompts constructive behaviour.
    • However, when they are skewed and upsetting, they divert parents' attention from the task at hand and cause them to make negative emotional and attributive judgements, which in turn hinders their ability to parent effectively.
    • The majority of parent intervention programmes focus on helping parents learn new methods for dealing with challenging behaviours in their children.
    • However, issues may also develop if parents exhibit maladaptive thought patterns.
    • For instance, mothers who are more prone to mistreat their children are more likely to label their children with negative characteristics when they exhibit ambiguous behaviour and interpret it as deliberate.
    • To combat these prejudices, Bugental and her team have devised a cognitive retraining intervention programme for parents.
    • Mothers who took part in the programme were shown to have more positive attitudes towards parenting, less negative parenting styles, and greater emotional availability.
    • Two years later, the children of the mums who had participated in the programme showed decreased levels of violent behaviour and improved cognitive skills compared to the children of the mothers who had not.
    • As a result, these results highlight the significance of parental ideas in the process of raising children.
    • Adolescence and adulthood are not "resting years" for social and personality development, as the preceding line implies.
    • It's affected by the same complex interplay of cultural, biological, and figurative factors that were analysed in the context of early development.

     

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