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What Do I Do When My Baby Stands Up In His Cot?

Learning to stand up in the cot is a rite of passage! As soon as your child develops this skill set, you can be sure that they will be intent on doing this in their cot when they maybe should be going to sleep!

Firstly, celebrate this developmental stage. Although you will be frustrated by it, this is a good milestone. In this first year, your child is rapidly growing and getting stronger, and before you know it- hopefully, like it or not, they will be running around you or, in some cases running rings around you!

When children learn to pull themselves up, they are mostly not good at getting back down again. When they are asleep, parents may enter into a power struggle of your child standing, and you are laying them down, only for them to get straight back up again – this can go on indefinitely.

When our babies start to learn a new skill, they want to practice, practice and practice some more!. Sometimes their favourite time to put in this practice is when they are in their cot when they would usually be napping or sleeping at night. 

This is very normal, and whilst it can be frustrating at the time, it is a great sign that they are developing and excited to perfect their new skill.

For older babies and toddlers, who perfected standing a while ago, standing in their cot can be for another set of reasons. They may not be ready for their nap or bedtime and want you to know they aren’t tired yet. 

It can also be a case of FOMO, and even though they are tired and ready for sleep, they might not want to give in to sleep just yet!

Every child is different and will develop skills at their rate, so the urge to practice standing can happen across a wide age bracket. It may happen as young as six months or closer to 10 months of age or beyond.

Some babies never stand in their cots and keep this activity to awake times, so don’t worry if you don’t experience any cot standing at all.

As with any milestone, feel confident that your baby will get there in their own time and don’t worry too much about hitting milestones at very specific ages. 

You can provide the opportunity for them to practice new skills and let them follow their development path when they are ready. If you are ever concerned about your baby’s development, then speak with your doctor, health visitor or paediatrician to set your mind at ease.

Older babies and toddlers may start to stand in their cot at any age:

  • It may signify they are ready for a routine tweak and their sleep timings need to change.
  • They might feel unsettled if there has been a big change, such as starting nursery or a house move, and need some more reassurance at bedtime.
  • They may be learning other new skills, such as talking or walking, and start standing up as they want to practice the other new things they are learning.
  • It can also be ‘just a phase’. Babies and toddlers go through different moods and phases, just like the rest of us!

Baby Nursery FAQs

Try to unlock her hand and encourage her to lie down. Once she lies down, rub her back a little bit more than you think you should to encourage her to stay lying down. Would recommend you sit by the crib and, when she starts picking herself up, say, “Shh-shh-shh. Night-night,” and encourage her to lie back down.

On average, babies start standing in the crib during the eight-month sleep regression. This is when babies become much more mobile, in general. Some babies might learn the skill early, around 6 to 7 months old, while others might not learn until 9 to 10 months old.

Try lots of reassurance: 1) Talk quietly and cuddle your baby until calm 2) Put your baby on their back in the cot awake (drowsy) 3) Comfort your baby with gentle 'ssshh' sounds, gentle, rhythmic patting, rocking or stroking until a baby is calm or asleep.

As always, lay your baby down in the crib while drowsy. If the baby cannot self-soothe, offer verbal soothing or tummy rubbing until your little one is calm. Keep the room dark, and try not to pick up your baby. You can continue going in every 5 to 10 minutes as needed until the baby falls asleep.

If you're laser-focused on instilling good sleep habits and teaching your baby to fall asleep and stay asleep without too much intervention on your part, then yes, the experts say to put your baby in their crib fully awake and teach them to fall asleep independently.

How Can You Help Them Settle To Sleep When They Keep Standing Up

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Like many phases and periods of development, standing in the cot often doesn’t last for a long time, and you will come out the other side in a few days or a couple of weeks. We can’t force our little ones to stop standing, but some tips can help you while they are going through this phase:

  • Practice. The ability to stand is often mastered before they develop the skill of returning to sitting/lying down on their own. You can help them practice this when they are awake. Place toys on the ground when standing up and let them practice bending to pick them up. You can help them bend their legs and encourage them to reach for a toy/book they enjoy.
  • Review sleep timings. It may be time for them to have longer stretches of awake time between naps or even reduce their daytime sleep if they are going to bed very awake. Sometimes standing in the cot or resisting sleep can signify that the balance of sleep and timings needs some tweaking.
  • Could you not turn it into a battle or a game?  If your little one keeps sitting or standing in their cot, you want to avoid continuously trying to lie them down over and over. It can be frustrating for everyone and overstimulating. You can try lying them down, but if they keep popping back up again, then it might not be the best approach for them. If they are calm, you can leave the room and let them sit down themselves. Alternatively, you can sit next to the cot as you settle them and tap the mattress with your hand, giving them the signal that it is time to lie down.
  • Consider a sleeping bag. If you don’t use one already, it may be a good time to transition to a sleeping bag, so you don’t need to worry about blankets falling away when they stand.
  • Provide boundaries. We want to support our little ones through this phase and provide some loving boundaries that it is time to sleep and support them to do this. Meet any needs then they have (check they aren’t hungry, uncomfortable, need a nappy change, are ready for sleep etc.) and support them to settle back down to sleep. This may mean staying with them even if they haven’t needed this previously or giving them some quiet space to settle themselves down.
  • Be patient. Easier said than done now, but remind yourself that this is a phase. This can take time and patience – you want to consistently signal that there isn’t anything else happening at this time other than calmly preparing to sleep.
  • Could you not push it? If they are sitting or standing after a short nap, try to resettle them. If it is clear, they will not fall back to sleep, move on and get them up.

Take a step back and look at what might be the reason for standing. Support them to practice new skills, tweak their routine if it feels like the time is right and patiently support them to settle to sleep.

Stop My Baby From Standing Up In Their Cot

Sleep training is a big milestone to achieve. Trying to get your little ones to sleep to make sure that they stay asleep for the next 8 hours may drive you nuts.

You may even notice that your baby is developing odd sleeping patterns that keep changing every day. At night, you may often find them standing up on their cots and holding on to the rails tightly.

Helping Your Baby Get Down At Night

If you notice that your baby tends to stand up at a particular time during their nap or sleep, we must get them down because they may be too excited to sleep or take a nap in favour of their discovery.

Once that happens, they’ll get cranky because they didn’t get enough sleep. It can also trigger anxiety for you as a parent (coupled with not enough sleep of your own), and if you do not keep your cool, your child will struggle against being laid down.

Ideally, when your baby stands up on their cot, you must immediately put them down the mattress and leave immediately. However, don’t sleep yet and check up on your child. If they stood up again after a few minutes, lie them back down.

As much as possible, don't linger too long with your child once you get them to lie down.

Tips To Lure The Baby Into Lying Down

If your child resists your efforts in getting them down and would even hold on to the bars, you will need to develop new ways to get them to sit down.

Here are some great tips you can try

  • If your baby keeps on holding on to the bars of their cot, you can step away for a bit and leave for a bit before trying again. 
  • If they continue resisting, leave them for a bit. Resistance would only foster further complications. 
  • With some patience, your child would slowly get tired and learn why they need to lie down. 
  • You can also try teaching your child how to lie down on their own during the mornings. 
  • This will help them become familiar with the act, so if they somehow got up, they would instinctively try their best to lie down as you taught them. 
  • While teaching your child to lie down, you can encourage them through song. A good way to do this is to sing them “Ring Around the Rosie”. As you sing, hold your little one’s hand, and once the line “Ring around the Rosie… and we all fall” comes, easily sit them down on their bottom. 
  • Not only will your child find the activity fun, but it will also encourage them to try doing it for themselves. It may take you a week or two to see the results. You can also use games as an alternative. 
  • During their nap time or when it is time to sleep, you can sing to your child or speak to them in a soft tone to get them to relax and feel sleepy. Once they lie down, you can stroke their cheeks or their back to get them to sleep. 
  • Of course, you have to make sure that you stop doing this before falling asleep because it can teach them how to sleep independently. 
  • You can also shorten naptime and get them active, letting them play and stand as they please. Once nighttime comes, your child will fall asleep easily and deeply.
  • Have found swimming for half an hour in the evenings helps my baby fall asleep much easier and lessens the chance of her waking up. 
  • Try revising your child’s nursery to make it more conducive for naps and sleeping. When your child is around six months to 1 year old, their senses are in full swing, and anything catches their attention. 
  • If you create an environment that can throw their senses off and get them sleepy, your child won’t be able to resist sleeping. You can change the room’s temperature, change the curtains and close the large lights. 
  • If you are sleeping in the same bedroom as your child, do make sure that you have whatever you need in your bedroom before his bedtime and try not to enter your bedroom while your little one is trying to fall asleep. 
  • You can also get a white noise machine or a music box to add to the mood. The humming or the soothing melody can lull your child to sleep. 
  • Changing the crib of your child is also a good way to entice them to sleep rather than get them all adventurous at night. 
  • You can use crib nets or pack-and-play crib toys that would catch their attention. Gliders can also be a good way to lull your child gently. Just make sure that your child is older than six months old before you place any toys in his cot. 
  • You can also purchase a baby sleeping bag since it could prevent them from moving around too much. It can also hold them in place since their legs can’t move much when in the sleeping bag. 
  • Finally, if you are breastfeeding your baby at night, you can allow them co-sleep with you in your bed while they are nursing. 

According to studies, babies who co-sleep with their mothers and nurse at the same time sleep longer. It also reduces the chances of your child sticking to the rails on his own. While in bed with you, you can monitor them and ensure they sleep deeply.

Things Had Settled Down, Until Now!

what do i do when my baby stands up in his cot

Suddenly your baby is standing in their cot, all smiles and refusing to sleep. They wake after a sleep cycle, stand up!

Ping!

You pop them to bed at nap time and ping them straight back up. Like a jack inbox, legs straight, knees locked, standing and not sleeping!

Mum is frustrated. A baby is getting progressively more and more tired. What is the solution? Your baby is going through a completely normal developmental phase, don’t panic.

Learning to stand is a physical milestone all babies go through; the way through this sleep 

regression is to teach your baby to lie back down. 

If you're feeling frustrated by your baby's lack of sleep, you might be tempted to try to “make” your baby go to sleep.

The bad news is you can’t “make” a ten-month-old sleep. Sure, you could try rocking them or feeding them to sleep.

But forcing a baby to sleep at this age usually results in frustration, delayed onset of sleep and frequent night wake-ups.

Instead, we need to look to support our baby’s through this stage and let them yield to that feeling of tiredness and go off to sleep.

If your baby is reaching the stage where they are falling asleep standing up or becoming very upset, we suggest you start to lie them down in their cot physically.

You are not forcing them to sleep or lying down and staying down. That will only end in tears from you and baby.

You’re simply reminding them with a 'physical cue' that it is time to sleep and to sleep. They need to lie down.

Understand they will probably jump straight back up and possibly even be annoyed at you, but this is when we know we are getting through to them and we are changing the situation.

Whether you lie them down at pre-timed intervals or every time they stand up is up to you as a parent to work out, every child is unique in how they respond. You will know your child best and what they will respond to best.

Remember, this is not forcing a child to sleep or assisting a child is sleeping, so try not to become frustrated when your child is showing no signs of going to sleep, and you have been at this for 30 minutes or more.

You have provided a wonderful sleep environment a full belly, and your baby is in bed at the right time. The onus is not on you to fall asleep or force your baby to sleep. The onus is on your baby to give in to that feeling of tiredness and fall asleep.

Be patient. Understand this is hard for your baby. They are tired, frustrated and trying to learn how to switch off.

Try singing to them or talking in a soothing tone. If they lie down, you can stroke their face or back to encourage them to fall asleep. Just be careful to stop before falling asleep, so they learn to do it independently.

Understand little children lock their knees in place when they first learn to stand up, so they aren’t trying to be difficult. They genuinely need help to learn to lie back down.

Please spend some time in the day when they are not due for a nap, learning to stand up, sit back down, and then lie down. Make it a game, tickle them and enjoy the time together. You are helping your baby form new muscle memory and brain synapses, enabling them to easily lie themselves back down in their cot.

Conclusion

Getting our baby down from standing on their cots may take time before it concedes and goes down on its own. As a parent, we have to be both consistent and patient with them because our child needs our guidance and forcing them would only cause a huge struggle for your child. 

Of course, savour each moment as you help your child pick up the skills he needs because before you know it, they will be running circles around you.

 

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