Where should our children sleep, and how can we persuade them to sleep through the night? are two questions that cause parents as much anxiety and criticism as any other in the early years of their children's lives. Babies are either deemed "good" or "bad" based on their ability to sleep through the night, or parents use sleep as a yardstick of their success as carers.
However, in many of his 150 scholarly writings on children's sleep, an anthropologist argues that our attitudes and decisions regarding children's sleep are more of a reflection of the society in which we live than the scientific evidence for what is best for children.
FAQs About Baby Bed
While room-sharing is safe, putting your infant to sleep in bed with you is not. Bed-sharing increases the risk of SIDS (sudden infant death syndrome) and other sleep-related deaths.
The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends room-sharing without bed-sharing for at least the first six months or, ideally, until a baby's first birthday. This is when the risk of SIDS(sudden infant death syndrome)is highest.
Research shows that a baby's health can improve when they sleep close to their parents. Babies that sleep with their parents have more regular heartbeats and breathing. They even sleep more soundly. And being close to parents is even shown to reduce the risk of SIDS.
Six months old
Experts recommend that infants sleep in their parents' room without bed-sharing until their first birthday. If parents prefer to move the baby to another bedroom, it's best to wait until the child is at least six months old.
Some SIDS researchers believe this is a factor in a baby's protective arousal mechanism. This harmony may also be related to psychological synchronicity between co-sleeping mothers and their babies: The co-sleeping mom is more likely to subconsciously sense if her baby's health is in danger and wake up.
Problems and Solutions in Ensuring a Secure Sleep Environment for Infants
Experts warn against giving too much weight to one's sleeping arrangements instead of one's sleeping habits. "An anthropologist who specialises in early childhood development and is also the director of a lab studying maternal and infant behaviour and sleep has concluded that the environment is less significant than the relationships parents form with their children.
He also notes that a child will develop independence from her parents in a variety of ways over time, which is a major argument for crib sleeping.
Couches, armchairs, and other soft, lumpy surfaces are dangerous for a newborn to nap on because they trap air and make it difficult for her to breathe. In the wee hours of the morning, when mum and baby are both sleepy, this can be very risky.
"If you believe there's even a remote chance you might nod off while feeding your baby, it's best to do it in bed instead of on the couch or a soft chair. If you do happen to nod off, remember to put the baby to bed in his or her own space as soon as you can.
According to the AAP, it is best for infants to sleep on their backs in a crib that has nothing more than a mattress and a snugly fitted sheet. Until the infant reaches one, no extra bedding, toys, or stuffed animals should be placed in the crib.
Cosleeping's positive effects on mental health
Anthropologists have discovered that, like other mammals and primates, the great majority of the world's non-Western societies sleep in communal living quarters. Some biological advantage must have resulted from the practise.
When parents and babies sleep together, their heart rates, brain waves, sleep states, oxygen levels, temperature, and breathing all influence one another, essentially acting as a biological "jumper cable," or outsourced regulator, for the newborn baby as she completes her gestation outside the mother's body. This is one of McKenna and his colleagues' greatest scientific contributions.
Because of this dependency, a biological anthropologist believes that a baby's development is meant to take place most safely within that biological system, in close proximity to an adult's body, especially during the first few months of life when the baby's physiology is most immature.
For example, research on animals has shown that when newborn monkeys were separated from their mothers, their bodies went into a considerable stress response. After the third night of separation for sleep training, the behaviour of a small study group of 25 infants between the ages of 4 and 10 months did improve, but the children's cortisol levels (a stress hormone) remained elevated.
This may not seem like a good thing, but it actually helps keep infants safe, especially in the first few months when they are still getting used to breathing in time with their carers.
Lighter sleep, or REM (Rapid Eye Movement), considerably aids synaptogenesis, the rapid formation of connections between neurones, in infants.
Some research suggests that adults get more shut-eye when they bedshare with their infants since they don't have to get totally out of bed to feed the newborn, and the infant doesn't have to cry for assistance, wait, and eventually go back to sleep.
In addition, the amount of sleep a child receives affects the daily interactions between a parent and a child. Parents who get enough sleep tend to make better decisions and, perhaps more importantly, keep their emotions under check. One of the indicators of postpartum depression is having problems sleeping after giving delivery.
There are extra benefits for dads when they sleep with their kids: Dads whose children shared a bedroom with them had much lower testosterone levels than those whose children slept in separate bedrooms, according to the study. Bedsharing may enhance fatherhood because males with lower testosterone levels are more likely to be sensitive and responsive fathers.
If you're a parent who wants to cosleep with their infant but is worried about creating an excessively reliant child, you may relax. It takes an average of an extra year for children who share a bed to master the art of sleeping independently. However, they may grow up to be more independent and responsible than their contemporaries who did not share a bedroom.
A short study of 83 preschoolers found that kids who learnt to fall asleep and stay asleep on their own at a young age were more likely to do so without further assistance as they became older. Young children who slept in their parents' beds showed greater independence in areas such as getting dressed, occupying themselves, and working out social conflicts than their non-cosleeping counterparts. By the time they were 18, children who slept with a parent or sibling showed no more evidence of sleep problems or mental health disorders than their non-bedsharing peers. To restate, many factors influence the state of physical and mental well-being of a child as they grow up.
Sharing a bed like a modern couple
Most parents, out of instinct, prefer to sleep next to their babies, and this is a practise that is on the rise, according to recent research. According to a survey done by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention in 2015, more than half (61%) of newborns in the United States bedshare at least once.
In addition, the American Academy of Pediatrics recommended in 2016 that parents and babies share the same room for at least the first six months, and preferably for the first year, but did not advocate for parents and babies to share the same bed.
So there's a gap between what parents are technically authorised to do and what they really do. As a result, many parents keep their bedsharing secret from their paediatrician for fear of being judged or, worse, reported to child protective authorities.
Immediately after they conclude their discussion. For parents concerned about their children's safety and well-being when sharing a bed, there is a dearth of trustworthy resources. For that reason, his book offers solutions for each problem that can arise throughout the night, complete with accompanying drawings.
After the first six months, when a baby's physiology has stabilised, additional factors can come into play, including cultural norms, family dynamics, and the baby's temperament or medical needs.
While a parent who requires their own space to sleep well may be a better parent overall, a child with heightened sensitivity may benefit more from sleeping in close proximity to his or her parents for longer.
Researchers believe that families thrive when their adults make decisions together that are guided by a shared vision. In particular, one should:
Fewer than half of infants do so before their first birthday, and a child's development is largely determined by the quality of the parent-child interaction rather than the environment in which it is nurtured.
When it comes to meeting their children's needs, parents are in the best position to do so. They must be afforded the chance to make choices that are in their own best interests, and they must be provided with the relevant data upon which to make those choices.
Why Parents Shouldn't Listen To These 5 Pieces Of Advice On Co-Sleeping
Safe co-sleeping, or parents sleeping next to their children, is the most common and conventional practise in many societies. However, families who choose to co-sleep with their newborns or toddlers must have a distinct cultural backdrop than those who do not.
A common stereotype about Americans is that they live in small, isolated communities and place a premium on personal space and independence. The homes and furniture in which we rear our children create their own set of special safety issues.
What does it mean when parents engage in risk-free cosleeping in the context of the contemporary family?
There is a lot of information, and a lot of false information, floating about, making it hard for parents to make confident, reasoned decisions about how to raise their children, especially when it comes to safe co-sleeping.
There are also more concerns for families who decide to co-sleep, whether out of philosophy or practicality. Ideally, what kind of co-sleeper should a new parent use to keep their child close at hand yet safely contained? When should a child who has been cosleeping move into his or her own bed? Do you think it's absolutely terrible to sleep next to your partner? There is a wide variety of sleeping arrangements to choose from, including cribs, bassinets, and even suspended co-sleepers.
Unsafe co-sleeping is the number one myth people believe.
There is less risk of SIDS for an older child who sleeps with their parents. As an example, if a child is suffocating or trapped, an older child has a better chance of breaking away. When a toddler is old enough to toddle around, they can't be forgotten as they spin around in bed like a top.
Attaching a co-sleeping device to the side of the bed makes it feasible to sleep with a baby in the same room. Mothers may easily tend to their infants in the privacy of their own beds, and the baby is kept away from dangers such as loose bedding and bulky adults.
Another option for keeping a baby out of the way yet close by is a "suspended crib," which is mounted to the ceiling in front of an adult's bed.
When one parent is in favour of co-sleeping, the other may sleep on a very firm mattress with a very tight bottom sheet. This is a more secure place to spend the night. However, there is still a risk of trapping or suffocation for young newborns in such situations.
Second Fallacy: It's Safe to Sleep With Someone
Okay. Please hear us out. Co-sleeping is a common kind of "attachment parenting," in which parents keep their children close at all times to respond quickly and calmly to any of their needs. They advocate the view that sleeping next to one's infant is an entirely normal and healthy practise. It's true — to a certain extent.
However, babies younger than three months old should not sleep in a regular bed with their parents.
This is due to the increased danger of suffocation and entrapment for infants who sleep with both parents in the same bed. A parent may accidentally smother their infant by rolling over on top of them (especially if they've been drinking) or the infant may suffocate by being encased in too many layers of thick, bulky blankets.
These threats can be lessened in a number of ways. The baby should never sleep between the parents, bulky bedding should be kept to a minimum, and no alcoholic beverages should be consumed before bedtime with a newborn. However, the risk can never be eliminated entirely, and the American Academy of Pediatrics still does not endorse the procedure.
It's More Difficult to Make the Switch to Sleeping Alone for Children Who Have Been Co-Sleeping
When transitioning a child from a crib or a co-sleeping arrangement to a full-size bed, there will always be an adjustment phase. There's no hard and fast rule on which transition is harder. How well a child adjusts to sleeping alone varies, like so much else in parenting, on the individual child.
Getting a child, whether a newborn or a preschooler, to sleep in their own bed can be difficult, but the "fading" strategy is most effective for making the transition from co-sleeping.
As the child sleeps in his or her own bed, the parent should be close by and unobtrusive. A parent gradually increases the physical space between themselves and their child (essentially fading back into their room).
As children make the shift from sharing a bed to sleeping independently, it is recommended that they bring a transitional object with them to bed, such as a stuffed animal or a blanket. When kids awaken in bed by themselves, they can use this object to assist them fall back to sleep.
False belief number four: sharing a bed with a toddler isn't beneficial.
Close parental supervision during sleep has been shown to have positive health effects on infants. Heart rates and breathing rates of babies are more stable when they sleep with their parents.
They're sleeping better, too. Having a parent nearby has also been demonstrated to lower the likelihood of sudden infant death syndrome. That's why it's recommended by the American Academy of Pediatrics that kids share a room with their parents but not their beds.
Breastfeeding women have a higher quality of life because they can provide for their children's nutritional needs without having to engage in strenuous physical activity. A baby that sleeps better will wake up less frequently, giving mum and dad a chance to catch some Zs.
No Sexual Activity Can Happen When Parents Share a Bed
Can parents have sex in their own beds without disturbing their kids? Unlikely. The inability of creative thought is on full display when one equates a lack of nocturnal sex with years of abstinence due to children.
There are a total of 24 hours in a day, and if parents can find some alone time, the vast majority of those hours are perfect for sexual activity. Help your child's sex life along by scheduling some time to get it on when they are with a relative or at a playdate, and by embracing the quickie.
No couple's marriage should be in jeopardy because they co-sleep. If so, the issue likely stems from something more fundamental.
Cosleeping: Making the Choice
Take into account your child's requirements in addition to your own if you decide to go the co-sleeping route. For example, if you or your partner are frequently out of the house, you shouldn't let your child sleep with you to avoid feeling lonely.
Once co-sleeping becomes as routine to a child as sleeping with a pillow, Schneeberg says, it's unlikely the child would "grow out" of it.
Social damage can be done over time as well. The youngster may miss out on sleepovers, summer camps, and overnight field excursions that other kids their age take for granted.
It's not too late to stop making your baby sleep in your bed if you've been doing it because you think it will make bedtime more peaceful for everyone. In a matter of days, you can get your kid to sleep in her own bed.
Conclusion
Anthropologist argues that our attitudes and decisions regarding children's sleep are more of a reflection of the society in which we live than the scientific evidence for what is best for children. Experts warn against giving too much weight to one's sleeping arrangements instead of one's baby's sleeping habits. When parents and babies sleep together, their heart rates, brain waves, sleep states, oxygen levels, temperature, and breathing all influence one another. Bedsharing may enhance fatherhood because males with lower testosterone levels are more responsive fathers. One of the indicators of postpartum depression is having problems sleeping after giving birth.
It takes an average of an extra year for children who share a bed to master the art of sleeping independently. However, they may grow up to be more independent and responsible than their contemporaries who did not share a bedroom. More than half (61%) of newborns in the United States bedshare at least once. Parents who choose to co-sleep with their newborns or toddlers must have a distinct cultural backdrop than those who do not. While a parent who requires their own space to sleep well may be a better parent overall, a child with heightened sensitivity may benefit more from sleeping in close proximity to his or her parents.
Co-sleeping is a common kind of "attachment parenting," in which parents keep their children close at all times. Babies younger than three months should not sleep in a regular bed with their parents. The risk can never be eliminated entirely, and the American Academy of Pediatrics still does not endorse the procedure. Getting a child to sleep in their own bed can be difficult, but the "fading" strategy is most effective. Close parental supervision during sleep has been shown to have positive health effects on infants.
American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that kids share a room with their parents but not their beds. If you're co-sleeping with your baby, it's not too late to stop if you think it will make bedtime more peaceful. A baby that sleeps better will wake up less frequently, giving mum and dad a chance to catch some Zs. Help your child's sex life along by scheduling some time to get it on when they are with a relative or at playdate.
Content Summary
- Where should our children sleep, and how can we persuade them to sleep through the night?
- are two questions that cause parents as much anxiety and criticism as any other in the early years of their children's lives.
- Babies are either deemed "good" or "bad" based on their ability to sleep through the night, or parents use sleep as a yardstick of their success as carers.
- However, in many of his 150 scholarly writings on children's sleep, an anthropologist argues that our attitudes and decisions regarding children's sleep are more of a reflection of the society in which we live than the scientific evidence for what is best for children.
- Problems and Solutions in Ensuring a Secure Sleep Environment for InfantsExperts warn against giving too much weight to one's sleeping arrangements instead of one's sleeping habits. "
- An anthropologist who specialises in early childhood development and is also the director of a lab studying maternal and infant behaviour and sleep has concluded that the environment is less significant than the relationships parents form with their children.
- He also notes that a child will develop independence from her parents in a variety of ways over time, which is a major argument for crib sleeping.
- Couches, armchairs, and other soft, lumpy surfaces are dangerous for a newborn to nap on because they trap air and make it difficult for her to breathe.
- In the wee hours of the morning, when mum and baby are both sleepy, this can be very risky. "
- If you believe there's even a remote chance you might nod off while feeding your baby, it's best to do it in bed instead of on the couch or a soft chair.
- If you do happen to nod off, remember to put the baby to bed in his or her own space as soon as you can.
- According to the AAP, it is best for infants to sleep on their backs in a crib that has nothing more than a mattress and a snugly fitted sheet.
- Until the infant reaches one, no extra bedding, toys, or stuffed animals should be placed in the crib.
- Cosleeping's positive effects on mental health Anthropologists have discovered that, like other mammals and primates, the great majority of the world's non-Western societies sleep in communal living quarters.
- Some biological advantage must have resulted from the practise.
- When parents and babies sleep together, their heart rates, brain waves, sleep states, oxygen levels, temperature, and breathing all influence one another, essentially acting as a biological "jumper cable," or outsourced regulator, for the newborn baby as she completes her gestation outside the mother's body.
- This is one of McKenna and his colleagues' greatest scientific contributions.
- Because of this dependency, a biological anthropologist believes that a baby's development is meant to take place most safely within that biological system, in close proximity to an adult's body, especially during the first few months of life when the baby's physiology is most immature.
- For example, research on animals has shown that when newborn monkeys were separated from their mothers, their bodies went into a considerable stress response.
- After the third night of separation for sleep training, the behaviour of a small study group of 25 infants between the ages of 4 and 10 months did improve, but the children's cortisol levels (a stress hormone) remained elevated.
- This may not seem like a good thing, but it actually helps keep infants safe, especially in the first few months when they are still getting used to breathing in time with their carers.
- Lighter sleep, or REM (Rapid Eye Movement), considerably aids synaptogenesis, the rapid formation of connections between neurones, in infants.
- Some research suggests that adults get more shut-eye when they bedshare with their infants since they don't have to get totally out of bed to feed the newborn, and the infant doesn't have to cry for assistance, wait, and eventually go back to sleep.
- In addition, the amount of sleep a child receives affects the daily interactions between a parent and a child.
- Parents who get enough sleep tend to make better decisions and, perhaps more importantly, keep their emotions under check.
- One of the indicators of postpartum depression is having problems sleeping after giving delivery.
- There are extra benefits for dads when they sleep with their kids: Dads whose children shared a bedroom with them had much lower testosterone levels than those whose children slept in separate bedrooms, according to the study.